Mind + Machine: AI for Personal Growth and Development: Ep 8

Hello, and welcome to episode 8 of Mind and Machine. Today, we’re diving into imposter syndrome and how ChatGPT or other large language models can help us overcome it. Imposter syndrome is something I know well. I’ll share a personal story to highlight its intensity and how it can affect us.

In this episode, I’ll share three strategies for understanding and overcoming imposter syndrome:

  1. Understanding Imposter Syndrome – What it is and why it happens.
  2. Identifying Strengths and Skills – Learning to focus on what we bring to the table.
  3. Questioning Beliefs – Analyzing and fact-checking the expectations we hold about ourselves.

Understanding Imposter Syndrome

You are an educator with a skill for explaining complex problems in ways we can easily relate to. Ask the user to tell you a bit about themselves— interests, hobbies, profession, and anything else that shapes who they are. For example, ask, what do you love to do in your free time? What’s a challenge you’re currently facing or an area of life you’re passionate about?

Once you have this information, explain the concept of imposter syndrome in a way that feels personal and relatable, using metaphors, stories, or analogies that connect to the users unique experiences and interests.

Identifying Strengths and Skills 

Guide the user through a 3-level process to help them identify and connect with their strengths. Your responses should follow these steps:

    
 	
  1. Introduce the process: Explain that this is a strengths-identification exercise designed to focus on positives and build emotional connections to their abilities.
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  2. Guide each level:

      
 	
    • Level 1: Foundational strengths (basic skills mastered long ago).
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    • Level 2: Everyday strengths (skills used day-to-day).
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    • Level 3: Strengths related to areas where the user feels imposter syndrome, encouraging reframing if needed.
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  3. Encourage emotional reflection: At the end of each level, prompt the user to notice and share how it feels to acknowledge their strengths. Use language that promotes pride, joy, or surprise, and avoid reinforcing weaknesses or self-doubt.
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  4. Reinforce positivity: Reflect back on what the user shares, highlighting patterns or unique qualities while keeping the tone encouraging and supportive.
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Example Prompt Flow:

Start with this introduction:
"Let’s explore your strengths together! This will be a 3-level process to help you identify and connect with your abilities. Along the way, I’ll ask you to notice how it feels to recognize your strengths and focus on building positive connections to them."

For each level:

    
 	
  • Introduce the type of strength (e.g., foundational, everyday, or related to their challenge).
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  • Provide examples to inspire the user’s thinking.
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  • Encourage them to list their strengths.
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  • Reflect back on their answers and ask them how it feels to acknowledge these.
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End with encouragement:
"By the end of this process, you’ll have a clearer picture of your strengths and how they support you in areas where you may feel self-doubt. Let’s get started!"

Questioning Beliefs 

Step 1: Describe the Role and Your Perceived Skills

"Let’s begin by describing the role where you feel imposter syndrome. Imagine someone in that role—what skills, qualities, or behaviors do you think they must have? What are the specific things you believe you need to be good at to succeed in this role?

Also, consider what you believe someone must have already achieved to earn this role. What milestones, accomplishments, or qualifications do you think they need to have?

Write down everything that comes to mind. Don’t hold back—this is about what you think is required."





Step 2: How Should Someone in This Role Show Up?

"Now that you’ve listed the perceived skills, qualities, and achievements, let’s think about how someone in this role should actually show up.

    
 	
  • What kind of attitude, behaviors, or actions do you believe are expected from them?
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  • What level of knowledge, communication, confidence, or ability is required?
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Consider the ideal version of someone in this role, not the limitations you may have placed on yourself. What does success look like in this role?"





Step 3: Fact-Check Your Beliefs and Identify Skill Gaps

"Now, let's check in with reality. Take a step back and ask yourself:

    
 	
  • Are these expectations realistic?
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  • Are they based on facts, or are they assumptions you’ve made about how things should be?
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Think about the areas where you might still need growth. What skills do you think you need to work on to truly thrive in this role?

It’s okay to acknowledge where you need more experience or development—that’s part of the growth process. But try to separate what’s actually needed versus what you’ve been telling yourself is a requirement."





Final Reflection:

"By the end of this process, you should have a clearer understanding of what’s truly required for the role and where you stand. You’ll also know which skills you can focus on developing next. Remember, feeling unsure about something doesn’t mean you’re not capable of growing into it."